Thanks to the Torah, Jewish Girls Are Better in Bed
Aug 23 3 Elul Torah Portion. We raised our children in a home that observed all the major Jewish holidays. I made our children aware of their culture and heritage. Our son was bar mitzvahed and attended Hebrew school for five years.
In the religious world where dating is often dependent on third parties making introductions, young men and women are at the mercy of others.
She swore off dating Jewish men. She questioned their motives in dating her. She made a bacon joke. Carey Purcell, who implies that Jewish men are initially attracted to her because she seems to fit the blond, pearl-wearing WASP stereotype, stepped into all kinds of hot water when she penned a March 29 essay for The Washington Post titled “I am tired of being a Jewish man’s rebellion.
But Purcell apologized Tuesday on her blog, and many view her piece as more wrongheaded and self-involved than mean-spirited. The bigger question, in a world where so many of us now date across ethnic lines, is how do you do it — and talk about it — in a way that’s kind and sensitive and doesn’t lead to a social media backlash? According to a report from the Pew Research Center, almost 4 in 10 Americans 39 percent who had married since had a spouse from a different religious group, compared with 19 percent of those who wed before The experts we interviewed declined to go head-to-head with Purcell, saying that ground already had been well covered.
But they were happy to illuminate some basic principles of interfaith dating. On the most basic level: “Recognize that there are Judaisms plural and Christianities plural, and there is a huge diversity of belief, practices, traditions and cultures under, say, the Jewish label and under the Christian label,” Miller said.
You really have to understand the complexity of your partner’s specific world.
My Very, Very Last — Seriously, I Mean It This Time — Non-Jewish Boyfriend
The current study investigated the dating attitudes of Ultra-Orthodox Jewish women using a qualitative analysis. Interviews were conducted with eight.
He had some luck meeting women through Internet dating sites like AmericanSingles. Then he found what he now considers an online gold mine — JDate, a Web site that bills itself as “the largest Jewish singles network. Although he is Catholic by birth and upbringing, Mr. Coppola has long preferred to date Jewish women. I thought I’d go with the odds. Coppola is one of a growing number of gentiles who have lately signed on to JDate, which was established in as a service for bringing Jews together.
The number of non-Jews on the site is difficult to estimate: 50, of its , members identify themselves as religiously “unaffiliated,” but they include Jewish members who don’t want to identify themselves as “secular” or with any particular sect. But interviews with people who use JDate suggest that gentiles have become an increasingly visible presence in recent years full disclosure: this reporter is one of them on a site that was designed to promote mating within the tribe.
The reasons non-Jews seek Jewish mates vary in their particulars, but generally seem to come down to the old idea of the nice Jewish boy or girl. Agnes Mercado, a Catholic administrative assistant from West Hollywood, had never even met a Jew until she immigrated from the Philippines 15 years ago. But in October, a little over a year after the death of her Jewish boyfriend of 13 years, she placed an ad on JDate that read, “I am a gentile looking for my mensch, are you out there?
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After each relationship ended, the men went on to marry women of their own faith. Oh, the outcry. And then, the mirth.
According to Jewish law, the religion is passed down through the mother, so if a Jewish man marries a non-Jewish woman, their children would.
All marriages are mixed marriages. Catholics know this. It does not matter if both partners are committed Roman Catholics, were even raised in the same church, attended the same catechism classes in the same dank basement, were confirmed on the same day by the same bishop and matriculated at the same Catholic college. Among Catholic couples you may still find that one prefers this kind of Mass and one that kind, one adores the current pope and the other loathes him.
One is committed to raising the children within the faith, while the other will give the children latitude to come to their own conclusions about God and the universe. And I always imagine, as a Jew, that Roman Catholics have it easy. At least they have a fixed star, in the pope and the Vatican, to ground their arguments and measure the depths of their dissent.
Think of what it is like for us Jews. That is when the negotiations begin! One of you never wants to go to synagogue, while the other would never miss it on Rosh Hashana. One of you eats only kosher food, while the other one loves a good bacon cheeseburger. Or you both keep kosher—but how kosher? One believes it is enough to refrain from work on the Sabbath, while the other refuses to drive or use electricity.
You Don’t Have to Be Jewish to Love JDate
Reading passages in the Bible, it seems apparent that throughout Jewish history, some of our most famous patriarchs have ran off with non-Jewish women. My question is this — is there really a problem with Jewish men? I asked my brother Ezra. If Jewish men and Jewish women were created equally, we were created equally as annoying as each other.
One of my potted theories on this particularly where Ashkenazis are concerned , is that the genetic pool is very tight.
Before she introduced him to us, she warned us that although he is a great person, he is not Jewish. We had always expected and hoped that she.
Times have changed, and that is a good thing—especially the fading-away of cruel taboos that once stigmatized women who engaged in premarital sex or bore children out of wedlock. Thing is, times change for a reason. The values question assumes that sexual mores loosen naturally from conservative to liberal. In reality, these values have ebbed and flowed throughout history, often in conjunction with prevailing sex ratios.
But the problem is a demographic one. Multiple studies show that college-educated Americans are increasingly reluctant to marry those lacking a college degree. This bias is having a devastating impact on the dating market for college-educated women. According to population estimates from the U. Among college grads age 30 to 39, there are 7.
The real reason for high Jewish intermarriage rates
American Jews have been debating the impact of intermarriage for decades. Does intermarriage lead to assimilation and weaken the Jewish community? Or is it a way for a religion that traditionally does not seek converts to bring new people into the fold and, thereby, strengthen as well as diversify the Jewish community? The new Pew Research Center survey of U.
Believe it or not, the rise in Mormon breast implants and $ Jewish dowries can explain why you’re alone on Friday night.
My husband’s father and mother are Jews. My parents are both what Mr. Hitler would be pleased to call ‘Aryan’ Germans. I am an American-born girl, and the first to defend my Americanism in an argument; yet so strong are family ties, and the memory of a happy thirteen-month sojourn in the Vaterland a few years ago, that I frequently find myself trying to see things from the Nazis’ point of view and to find excuses for the things they do—to the dismay of our liberal-minded friends and the hurt confusion of my husband.
Here we are then, Ben and I, a Jew and a German-American, married for four years, supremely happy, with a three-year-old son who has his father’s quick brown eyes and my yellow hair. Ours was a fervent love match, made more fervent by the fact that we had to wait in secret for two years until Ben earned enough at his profession to support a family. He had known other girls and, as I was twenty-five before we married, I had had my share of other men’s attention.
Consequently our marriage was not the hasty, impassioned leap of two people soaring on the Icarian wings of a first love. That which was between us was calm as the night, deep as the sea; in the light of it we both knew that forever afterwards he would look upon other women, and I upon other men, as pale wraiths. We determined that no obstacle should prevent our union, and obstacles there were a-plenty as soon as our families learned our intention.
Married to a Jew, you will be barred from certain circles. They can say what they like about Germany, but democratic America is far from wholeheartedly accepting the Jews. Remember that Ben couldn’t join a fraternity at his university. Remember there are clubs and resorts and residential districts that bar Jews.